What to do When People Do Not Believe In You
I am going to try to write this as generalized as possible, so we can all relate to this. I personally have a deep connection to this and often times, we teach what we still have to learn. This is a good reminder to me and I hope others in the same situation get inspired by this post. – Tw1sted
Let’s just say here I was totally impassioned and the next moment I felt destroyed. I have thought about this deeply. This is my way of dealing with this type of situation in a positive and constructive way.
Some of us may have friends or even family that does not believe in us. We try to do something different, and people resist us and don’t believe in the special gift we have to offer. You might be just starting out in the dating game and your friends see you getting rejected and think you’re a joke. You might be starting a business and people don’t believe in an idea that you might have, it might even be your closest friends and family and FUCK it can sting.
Embrace The Pain
Some things can just feel disgusting. Do not try to run away from the pain, do not drink the pain away nothing. Just embrace it, stay in the same room with it, notice how it is making you feel, DO NOT try to rationalize it away. Join the dance that is life, the ups and the downs. You my friend, are now building emotional intelligence.
Reconnect With Yourself
I recently had a tough situation and felt like life was giving me a big test. It hurt a lot, it hurt because this is something that I really believe in. What I am trying to do is so aligned with my goals that it touches me in a deep place. I want to help people. It is my goal in life and that is what brings me ultimate happiness. If I can just help one person out of a hundred then I am doing something right.
Find your why, why are you doing this? When you find your why, it should light a fire on your ass and motivate you in a deep level. When people don’t believe in you, you feel vulnerable, find someone that does believe in you that can encourage you and talk to them. No matter what if you truly believe in something then you must protect it, protect your dream.
There might be a time where you might have to temporarily distance yourself from that person, if it’s a friend or even a family member. Just until you are able to think straight and you are back on your feet.
Life is short
Remember that life is really short; do you really want to spend your time feeling down over others’ words when they’re completely unwarranted, baseless, and probably not making any kind of sense? We go from the darkness that is pre-birth to living and then to the darkness that death might be, why waste our mental energy on someone that doesn’t have our back. I am speaking from a science perspective; if you believe in god or whatever religion you believe in I respect it. Do you really want to give up on your dream because of someone putting you down? Live it up.
Let’s all face it, a lot of people are insecure, It could be plain ignorance but some people tend to attack things that are new to them. Don’t take what others say about your dream to heart, if their criticism isn’t constructive, it might just be their own insecurities that they are projecting onto you. Think about the successful people that have taken the road less traveled. We cannot predict our future (we as humans are horrible at it) and none of our friends or family can predict it either. In reality, having support gives a big emotional boost, but you DO NOT need anyone to be successful.
Naysayers will give out advice, even though they have no experience.
If you succeed, everyone will praise you, and if you fail they will say I told you so. Don’t take life so personally, remember this everyone experiences pain. No one is exempt from it.
I recently read “The Wisdom of Insecurity” By Allan Watts. He puts this situation in a great perspective, the more we try to control our lives and control people the more we lose control of it. For example we can’t save our breath by holding our breath. We have to accept things as they are and deal with it, living in the past won’t change the present, but living in the present can change the present.
I will leave you guys with three other quotes by Allan Watts to end this.
“When you swim you don’t grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float.”
“Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone.”
“Advice? I don’t have advice. Stop aspiring and start writing. If you’re writing, you’re a writer. Write like you’re a goddamn death row inmate and the governor is out of the country and there’s no chance for a pardon. Write like you’re clinging to the edge of a cliff, white knuckles, on your last breath, and you’ve got just one last thing to say, like you’re a bird flying over us and you can see everything, and please, for God’s sake, tell us something that will save us from ourselves. Take a deep breath and tell us your deepest, darkest secret, so we can wipe our brow and know that we’re not alone. Write like you have a message from the king. Or don’t. Who knows, maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have to”